5 Signs He’s Ready For A Relationship

Okay, so you’ve been dating a guy for a couple of weeks. Things are going okay but you’re reaching that critical stage when you want to know whether he’s actually ready for a relationship, or whether he just wanted a bit of fun and is now ready to move on.

It’s a tough call to make. We’d all like to know intimately exactly what guys are thinking, but the old “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” adage still rings true. Just when you think you’re beginning to understand where you are with a guy, he sends you a total curveball. Like, you know, dropping off the face of the Earth.

The thing is, though, that there are a few dead giveaways that let you know whether he’s interested, or whether he’s having second thoughts. To ensure you don’t lose any more sleep plucking petals off a “love me not” flower, here are the top 5 surefire signs that he’s ready for a relationship.

1. He wants to hear your voice

There is something soothing and reassuring about the voice of the person we like. After a really bad day, just hearing that special someone’s voice can be enough to raise our spirits and remind us that the world isn’t such a bad place after all. If he calls you up often, or requests that you guys go on Skype late at night, it’s a telltale sign that he digs you. Even if he can’t see you, he just wants to hear you tonight because your voice comforts him and it means a lot when he can hear it.

If on the other hand, he’s the type of guy who literally never answers the phone, it’s a surefire sign that he see’s this relationship as something casual and would probably rather you didn’t disturb him while he kills bad guys on  Playstation.

2. He makes an effort

There is nothing more disheartening than a guy who doesn’t make an effort. You want him to get dressed up with you tonight because you’re going to an expensive restaurant, but he comes back with “all we’re doing is eating food.” You want him to get along with your friends and family and be talkative around them, but he’d rather check his phone and see what his buddies are up to.

On the other hand, if he is making the extra effort to please you, you should definitely take it as a sign that he really likes you. Maybe he makes the effort to always be on time whenever you meet up, or maybe he really goes to town when it’s your birthday. Maybe he arranges the dates or works extra hard at ingratiating himself around your friends and family.

3. He respects you – and accepts you as you are

If a guy is only interested in a temporary fling, it’s likely that he’s going to bulldoze his way through a relationship really quickly so that he can “get to the point.” But he’s genuinely interested in you and see’s a future here, he’ll respect you and take his time. Before engaging in something like sexting, for example, he’ll ask you how you feel about it. He will also accept you as you are and make no effort to try to change you. If you’re the kind of girl who prefers not to wear makeup, he’ll be totally cool with that because he digs what’s inside. He wants substance.

4. He makes you a priority

We’ve all dated guys who seem to always put everything first before us. Perhaps we’d planned to go to a dinner party together tonight but his fantasy football team has done something fantastic, so they now can’t make it. When a guy is genuinely interested in you, though, he will put you first before anything else. Fantasy football? Forget about it, he’s got a hot date with his even hotter chick. His friends want to come round for a video game extravaganza tonight? Too bad, because he’s going to ask you what you’re up to first.

5. He talks about the future

There is probably no bigger sign that he’s ready for a relationship than when he starts talking about the future. Not only does he talk about the future, but he also includes you in it. This is genuinely a sign that he likes you a lot and wants you to join him for the long-term ride. Once he shifts the topic to future plans, you really don’t need to worry anymore about where he’s at; he likes you, wants you, and pretty much needs you to be with him every step of the way.

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