10 Long Distance Texting Tips To Keep Him Interested And Begging For More

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Having spent many years in a long distance relationship, I understand the joys (passionate reunions) and pains, like worrying he’s losing interest. I also understand that a long distance texting can go stale fast – particularly when you start droning on about your day.

The secret to keeping your long distance boyfriend interested? Take advantage of these long distance texting tips. Your number one goal:

Make Him Crave You And Your Messages

Unfortunately, if you constantly fire off mundane texts, your partner will start thinking of you as boring, and boring is never sexy. Instead, start filling their inbox with text messages that keep them hooked, happy and in love until you’re reunited and able to do this again…


Here are ten of my favorite long distance texting tips that will keep him engaged, interested, and begging for more.

1. Share your surroundings
Rather than sending random photos from time to time, invite your partner in on your world. Snapchat has made this easier than ever! Take a photo as you walk to work, share your favorite place, or sit down on a bench in the botanical gardens.

2. Remember the big and small events
Cheat and schedule reminders to congratulate them for finishing a big project, asking them how their first class went, or motivating them to continue learning a foreign language. Remembering both the big and small events is a great way to stay connected and make your partner feel loved. Thoughtful reminders like, “Wish I could have been there to cheer embarrassingly loud at the end of your presentation, I’m sure you were amazing!” will go a long way.

3. Put your life into context
While sharing your day-to-day activities and adventures is a great way to stay connected, make sure they are up to speed with your surroundings before you get too text happy. There is nothing more boring than listening to a computer engineer explain programming if you don’t have the slightest clue about computers. The same holds true for personal stories. While they might seem hilarious to you, they are definite “snoozers” for your partner unless they are familiar with the characters and the plot.

4. Be specific when crafting your text messages
Instead of going with generic messages, take the time to write something personalized. Compliment your partner, communicate what you miss most about them, or what you look forward to sharing when you are finally reunited. For example:

“Miss running my fingers through your long, silky hair.”
“Loved hearing your contagious giggle on the phone.”

Or you can take this opportunity to say something flirty like, “I can’t wait until we can have breakfast in bed… minus breakfast 😉

Long distance texting tips

5. Send positive energy
People are attracted to positive people. Stay attractive and avoid useless venting to your partner via text. Save your griping for your close friends, or your dog. Also, while jealousy might look sexy in music videos or romantic comedies, the these are the types of text messages that will kill your relationship:

– “Where are you?”
– “Who are you with?”
– “Why didn’t you call last night?”

On a side note, if you suspect that your partner is sneaking around, ask them in person or over Skype. Grilling him about potential infidelity are one of the bigger questions you should never ask him over text. Generally speaking, it will not end well.

6. Elaborate on how much you miss him
Don’t simply say “I miss you”… get specific. Here are some great ideas for positive, sweet texts to let him know you miss him:
– “The second you get off the plane you’re all mine”
– “Thanks for the call. Your voice is by far my favorite sound.”
– “I can’t wait for the day that we don’t have to say goodbye, only goodnight.”
– “I don’t mind waiting for you, you’ve already proved you’re worth the wait…”

7. Play flirty texting games.
Mix things up a bit with a flirty texting game like QuickFire! They’re a fun way to shake things up, keep text message convos in your long distance relationship from going stale and see what your partner really made of.

8. Stop reading too much into his texts
Do you waste time worrying over every single text he sends you and obsessively searching questions like: “What does it mean when he texts you ‘OK’?” Save your sanity by learning how to decipher his most vague text messages.

9. Master the art of seducing him via text
Make him beg for your touch by skipping the nudes and sending seductive text messages that will leave him gasping for more. Learning how to seduce him via text is a skill that will come in handy again and again… particularly when it’s been a long time since you’ve seen each other.

10. Leave him a sexy voice message
One of my favorite seduction tricks to use in a long distance relationship? Using the purr of your sexy voice to leave a sexy voice message for your boyfriend or husband. Although let’s be real: sometimes that’s easier said than done! Learn how to blow his mind with a seductive voicemail. I promise, he’ll love it. 😉


The ultimate goal? Keep him engaged with these long distance texting tips. 

Keeping your texts interesting, upbeat and relevant does take some work. But the extra effort is definitely worth it. Long distance texting can be a fantastic way to ignite passion, and maintain a rock solid connection in a long distance relationship.  So, when communicating via text, take the time to add a little extra somethin’ somethin’ to your long-distance communication.

Remember, if your texts are good enough, your partner will read them not once, not twice, but many times. Reserve your spot in their heart by showing that you care enough to send a personalized, positive and creative text message.

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Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through creative texting. To read more by Claudia, visit Text Weapon . Don't forget to signup for the FREE Texting Club trial with over 300 messages. You can also hit her up on Twitter .

  • Clinton

    Excellent tips Claudia!
    A thoughtful long distance texting approach is so important. I’ll be trying out some of your tips with my girlfriend while she’s on a two-week trip.
    We send lots of photos of our surroundings when away, but adding the “made me think of you” connector makes a huge difference.
    Do you have any good tips for sending voice messages on Whatsapp?

    • Claudia

      Hi Clinton,
      I also love sending voice messages on Whatsapp. A
      great idea is to record a few “captions” and weave them in between the
      photos so she can hear your sweet voice. As with text messages, keep
      them short – between 30sec and 1min30 (at the longest). Pay special
      attention to the tone of your voice – if you want to send her an upbeat
      message smile as you speak, she will be able to hear your smile.


  • Shelley

    Dear Claudia,
    You have the GREATEST ideas! Leaving reminders to yourself is such a great tool, especially this day and age where you phone is attached to your hip! As we get older, our memory is becoming NOT-SO-GREAT! Once in a great while I use my reminder app in my phone and the response from my friends (like a best friends anniversary recently or my long lost girlfriend from my childhood) is very appreciate and the response is overwhelmingly awesome! I have inbred into my mind a few birthdays from people who didn’t expect me to remember, and sending them a special note on or before their special day is a special moment for both parties!

    I love your help that you give to me, this day and age where texting is one of the top 2 things you do everyday, seems well worth my visit to your site. Thank you and keep up the good work!

    • Claudia

      Hi Shelley,
      Thank you so much! I’m really happy that the ideas have been helpful. Please drop me a line anytime if you’re interested in any other creative message ideas, I’d love to hear from you!
      P.S. I’m working on a new “Happy Birthday” post.

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