How To Stop Yourself From Texting Him
So, you’ve been dumped. You’re miserable. You’re dying to text message him. DON’T. Here’s how to get over a guy AND how to stop yourself from texting him when you’re vulnerable, a little irrational, and extremely prone to doing something crazy because as we’re all familiar with, sometimes love feels like a drug addiction, and a bad breakup can can make you feel like you’re going through love withdrawals.
Trust me, reading these tips on how to get over a guy will save you from doing something you’ll later regret.
We’ve all been there, and we all wish we hadn’t.
Right now, your phone could be your worse enemy. So, short of chucking it in the bin, you need to find a way to control it so it doesn’t control you. The last thing you want to do is send him a text that will ruin everything.
Let’s face it—he probably broke up with you via text. Heck, he may have even gone MIA and now you’re struggling with how to cope after being ghosted!
Gone are the days of the spoken, “It’s not you, it’s me…” breakup. Instead, we get a phone vibration and two words: “We’re done.” Don’t follow in his footsteps! Be the bigger (wo)man and don’t let the ease of texting allow you to say something you shouldn’t have. Take a deep breath and follow these tips for how to get over a guy and how to stop yourself from texting him.
1. Set a rule for how often you can check your phone
The rejection is still raw. You’re used to your phone lighting up with his name and getting that happy feeling in the pit of your stomach: funny emojis, gifs, and messages like “I’m on my way!” used to accompany that name on your screen. Now, each time you check your phone and don’t see these messages, you’ll feel rejected. Every. Single. Time. You. Check. The. $%&^. Thing.
Do yourself a favor, girlfriend – don’t obsessively look at your phone. Make a rule to check it once an hour, at the top of the hour, and that’s it. The best tip for how to get over a guy is to not obsess! Move forward by distracting yourself with something fun that will propel you forward, like learning how to take amazing online dating profile photos!
2. Text someone else
Maybe he isn’t the scum of the earth and you’re holding onto the hope that he’ll realize it was all a big mistake and will rush to text you and tell you how sorry he is. Whatever you do, don’t contact him first. You don’t want to appear desperate or falling apart at the seams. He’ll come to you when he’s ready. If you need to text him, text someone else instead.
Oh, and if he does text you, don’t respond immediately. The worst thing you could do is to immediately jump back to him before deciding if it’s actually right for you. You’ll end up sad and dumped again in no time flat. #badidea
3. Change his name in your phone
Maybe you’re the one who did the dumping. Even if you made the bold move because you knew it was the right thing to do, it doesn’t mean that you won’t miss him. You know you shouldn’t contact him, but you really want to – just to see if he’s alright, right? Don’t let your emotions get the best of you.
You know the best advice to get over a bad breakup is to simply let time do its thing – i.e. you must resist texting him. Change his name in your phone to “DO NOT CONTACT,” or delete it from your phone (yes, even the past messages). Better yet, give his number to a friend to safeguard until enough time has passed that you won’t text him in a weak moment.
4. Don’t text “I miss you”
It’s been a few days since your breakup… maybe even a few weeks. The first Sunday without sharing a stack of Al’s Unlimited Pancakes flies by, and your pancake-less world is looking grey. You receive a wedding invitation and can’t check the “plus-one” box. You reach for your phone – you miss him and want him to know. “It’ll be so easy,” you think, “…I’ll just send him an ‘I miss you’ text, and whatever happens, happens.”
RESIST! Texting makes it too easy. Too easy to say what’s actually really hard. Too easy to say what you wouldn’t actually speak. Too easy for him to misconstrue your words, their tone, and intended inflection. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. You’ve done your best to get over him until now, and getting sappy won’t fix a thing, it’ll just put you back to right where you started – sad and rejected. And whatever you do, don’t convince yourself that your sappy texts are an attempt to befriend your ex. That comes later, my friend.
Letting go of someone you once loved is never easy, but it’s something that has to be done. Don’t let the ease of texting foil your plans to make a graceful exit from the breakup. Follow these tips on how to get over a bad breakup and you’ll walk away with your head held high.